Self-Love & Relationships

Four Tips to help build your self-esteem

What’s affecting your self-esteem, did you lose your job? having a hard time getting over a bad break up? have you been mentally abused? or just going through ongoing stressful life events? all of these factors can definitely bring you down but not for long. These 4 tips are going to have you saying “I’m back and I’m better”.

#1 Focus on yourself

The last thing you want to do while you’re going through rough times is minding other people’s business. My your own business and focus on yourself. Before asking for help, think about how can you get better on your own. Get up and get out, look for resources and activities that can put you back in a good space.

#2 “I am who I am”

If you want to get better and build your self-esteem then you need to embrace who you are. You have to accept that you made mistakes, you have flaws and you are not perfect but it will not define you. Most importantly forgive yourself so that you can move on and live the life you desire.

#3 Focus on the Positive

Always focus on the positive. Appreciate yourself by writing down all the things you have accomplished. Celebrate those accomplishments. At Pour Toi Inc we find any good reason to celebrate. Find your reason. This is one many of us don’t do enough, compliment yourself. Look yourself in that vanity mirror girl and say it ” I am beautiful” “I am Smart” and the list should go on.

#4 Link up for good vibes only!

Call up your girls and plan a date. Get up and get out. But most importantly call up the right girls, the ones who are down for you. The last thing you need is fake friends around you during this time. You know that friend that says “yassss sis” “you look, good girl”. Call that friend up because that’s the energy you deserve right now, good vibes only.


Women's Health & Wellness

Everyday is self-care day:12 things you can do to make everyday self-care day

Between working, going to school, running a business, taking care of children, maintaining a household and finding time to hang with friends we barely have time for ourselves. At least, that is what some of us may think. But we are here to tell you, girl pace yourself and make time for you. Self-care is so essential! that’s why we put together 12 things you can do to make everyday self-care day.

Time Management 

Pick a time, a routine and stick with it. Make sure your plans for the day can be done before your self-care activity. For example, if you work a 9 to 5 job and you make a 6:30 pm nail appointment, then you want to make sure that your work is done on time. Nothing should stop you from making your 6:30 pm nail appointment. this is what we mean by picking a time, a routine and sticking with it.

 Set Boundaries

Setting Boundaries is something we must do to protect our mental health and overall well being. Setting boundaries help us make decisions based on what is best for us. Think about whether or not you want to do something, how it’s going to affect you emotionally and if it’s worth it. We believe boundaries should be set with friends, family, co-workers and significant other. Everyone needs to have a clear understanding of what should be expected. As far as how to set these boundaries, our best advice is to simply say “hell no” to something you know you don’t want to do, period. 

Tea Time

Allow yourself 10-15 mins to have a cup of tea in the morning before you start your day. Green tea is our favorite, it has a calming effect on the nervous system. It just puts you in such a good mood.

Spa Day

Have a spa day, alone or with friends. If you choose to do it alone, even better! you can have a spa day at home. The good thing about having a spa day at home is that you can have one any day of the week. Draw a hot bath with your favorite bath bombs, lit a candle and relax.

New Hair Who Dis?

While you’re on lunch or behind the desk hit up your hairstylist and book the earliest appointment. A New hairstyle seems to redefine you, doesn’t it? New hair, New chapter, who this again? A new look just makes you feel energized, confident and positive about everything. Next time you’re feeling down or overwhelmed with work, randomly book a hair appointment.

Update that playlist girl

Good music always set the mood. Ask yourself what you feel like hearing, then scroll through your favorite music app (Tidal is our favorite music app) and search for the latest songs. Download, press play and get into your zone.

Vent, let it out

Venting can either go good or go left. We suggest talking to people you know who actually care about your well being, people who want to see you win. But venting is always a good thing to do because it’s good for your mental health. There are so many people in this world who suffer from mental illness and part of the reason is that they did not talk about their issues and their concerns with anyone, they held it in. Don’t you do that sis, let it out!

Create a vision board

Creating a vision board allows you to make your goals clear, motivate you to work towards accomplishing your goals and help you to stay focus. Put it all on the board, visualize and manifest that sh*t every day.


If you can’t remember the last time you went to the gym or even did a push up then you might want to go to kickboxing one day after work. Kickboxing is a good cardio workout, guaranteed to burn fat fast. You can release stress after a hard day at work and learn valuable self-defense moves at the same time. Another good thing about kickboxing is that it tones your body. Making you feel sexy and confident, as you should.

My phone was on silent sorry not sorry

Feeling stress, overwhelmed and over everything? put your phone on silent, whatever it is can wait. Use that time to relax your brain or better yet take a nap.

Book a flight

If you seriously need a break and you have the time and money, book a flight. It doesn’t have to be a long trip. Book a weekend trip and come back on Monday as nothing happened. A study shows that everyone benefits from a vacation, both physically and mentally. A vacation or getaway allows you to clear your mind, relax, meet new people and change your mindset. If you can go then go.

     Start putting you first, Do it pour Toi 

Daily Inspiration

How to Vibrate higher around negative energy

No matter how many negative people you cut off, you can still be surrounded by negative energy at any given time. You can come across negative energy at work, at the mall, in the street, at your favorite restaurant, pretty much anywhere. So how do you handle it? you can either allow them to lower your vibration or ignore them and continue to vibrate higher. Vibrating higher is always an option for us. Here are five tips to think about before you allow someone to lower your vibration.


Unfortunately, we have some miserable people in this world, who don’t like to see other people happy. Smile through it all, they hate it. Not only do they hate it but you can’t allow people to get the best of you. That will be like giving them too much power. Remember you are responsible for your own happiness, no one can take that away. SMILE!

Keep it Brief

Shorten your time around these negative nancies. It’s not about giving someone the power to make you leave, it’s about being mentally strong and knowing when it’s time to go. Once you feel the energy in the room is changing or something bad might happen, that’s when you know it’s time to go. Listen to your gut and protect your energy by any means necessary. As you leave the room make sure you leave with a graceful exit.

No reaction is the best reaction 

Sometimes people will purposely do or say things to get a reaction out of you. Don’t react. Instead, stay calm and think positive. By thinking positive you’re preventing yourself from stooping down to their level and lowering your vibration. If you should respond, respond with kindness. If this doesn’t work changing the subject will. Have you ever been at a table with people who love to gossip but when you mentioned something everyone was interested in, like money or new job opportunities; now everyone is open ears. Yes, turn a bad conversation into a good one, it seems to always work.


Meditation strengthens your spirit and aura. When you are spiritually strong you are more likely to handle certain situations in a positive way. Another good thing about practicing meditation is that it allows you to connect with your higher self, this can shake off any bad energy around. So before you start your day take 10-15 minutes to meditate.

Is it worth it?

Don’t argue with a fool, they will drag you down with them. It’s not worth it. Keep in mind, people with a lower vibration than yours are going through a lot . These people have issues, they might be struggling with depression, mental illness, family issues, drug abuse and so on. There’s a reason why they are not vibrating higher. So you have to ask yourself is it really worth arguing with them? let us answer that for you, NO it is not. You have goals and plans you’re working on. You have no time to let negative energy affect you. It’s not worth it girl. 


Six tips to protect your edges

I think it’s safe to say most women change hairstyles more than 5 times a year. But sometimes we forget how important it is to take care of our hair in between hairstyles. Especially our edges because your edges are the most sensitive. Here are 6 simple ways to save your edges.


It doesn’t matter what hairstyle you’re wearing, moisturize your hairline. Balancing moisture and protein in your hair is very important because it improves hair elasticity, which prevents breakage. 


If you’re pulling your hair back into a tight ponytail all the time, the tension can cause strands of your hair to break or pull out the root. A ponytail is one hairstyle you don’t want to keep in for long if you’re trying to hold on to your edges.


When braiding your hair, stay away from skinny parts near your hairline. Your parts should be big enough for your scalp to breathe during the course of the hairstyle. If you’re someone who loves wearing extensions, leave your edges out. If you do not tell your hairstylist to leave your edges out, when doing a weave installation they will braid your hair in with the rest of your braids. This is going to cause a lot of pulling and pain, damaging your edges.


Taking better care of your hair means throwing away your bandana. Throw the whole bandana away. Bandanas soak all the moisture and oil out of your hair. The last thing you want is dry and brittle hair, causing your hair to fall out. If you want to hold on to your edges you might want to invest in a silk scarf, silk bonnets or silk pillowcases. Silk maintain the natural oils in your hair. It also reduces friction on your hair. Some women like satin bonnets and that’s fine. Silk or satin? we will leave that to your discretion. 


For those of you who wear lace fronts or full lace wigs, we don’t recommend glue at all. You may have seen ghost bond adhesive and got2b glued all over your timeline but truth be told it can damage your hairline. One way you can install your wig without damaging your edges is by using the elastic band method. It holds your wig in place with no glue necessary. To know more about the elastic band method go to youtube and type in “elastic band method.” 

Hair Vitamins 

Just like your body, hair needs vitamins to stay healthy. Age, genetics, and hormones can affect hair growth, but a lack of nutrients can be the main reason for hair loss. If you have thinning edges you might want to start taking hair vitamins. We recommend Sugar Bear hair vitamins and Mielle healthy hair adult vitamins. The Sugar Bear vitamins are vegetarian gummy bears. Packed with biotin, folic acid, and vitamin D. Mielle Vitamins are also packed with biotin, folic acid, vitamin a,c,e, b-1, and much more vitamins. 


Healthy Foods & Drinks

Boost your immune system this winter: turmeric latte

You’ve may have seen it on our IG page and said to yourself “wow that looks good, I need to try it.” Well before you try it, let’s talk more about turmeric latte. 

Turmeric latte is a popular beverage everyone is talking about. Turmeric latte aka “Golden milk” is a beverage that has been used in traditional Chinese medicine and Ayurvedic medicine for centuries, but has been used mostly in the western world. It is made from lots of turmeric and almond milk. People love turmeric latte because it is known to have so many health benefits.

Strengthen Immune system

Curcumin, a compound found in turmeric is known to have anti-inflammatory properties that help boost immunity. So let’s say you have a viral infection, cold, or flu you can drink a glass of warm milk with a teaspoon of turmeric as a preventative health supplement. This remedy also works to relieve stomach pain and infection in the gut. You’ll feel better in no time, it works like a charm! 

Fights against cancer 

Studies found that turmeric might be the most effective ingredients that can keep people healthy and cancer-free. This is because curcumin has been a beneficial herb in cancer treatment and been found to affect cancer growth. Studies also found that turmeric has been shown to work better than over the counter anti-inflammatory drugs. In countries where turmeric is heavily consumed, the rate of cancer is lower. But at the moment there is no clear evidence that turmeric or curcumin really prevent or treat cancer. 

Reduce Cholesterol 

Turmeric latte is a new and effective way to get your cholesterol level back to normal. The curcumin in turmeric is able to control LDL cholesterol and its dangerous effects on arteries. It prevents the liver from producing cholesterol while increasing the amount of LDL cholesterol that the liver clears from your body, preventing the intestine from absorbing it. If you have high cholesterol start drinking turmeric latte and then to find out if it’s really beneficial, visit your doctor to see if your cholesterol dropped back down to normal.

Relieve muscle pain

Curcumin is the reason why turmeric latte help relieves muscle pain. Curcumin also has anti-oxidant and wound healing properties that help relieve joint pain. 


It is found that antioxidants like curcumin can help relieve symptoms of depression by fighting chronic inflammation.


1 cup of water

1 cup of steam almond milk

1/2 chopped fresh turmeric

1 tablespoon of chopped fresh ginger

pinch of black pepper

1 cinnamon stick (optional)

1 tablespoon cardamom pods (optional)

2 tablespoons of honey ( optional)


Before bed skincare routine

One thing we don’t do is fall asleep with a full face of makeup. That’s a big no-no! and the reason why is because sleeping in your makeup can cause breakouts, eye infection, wrinkles, and much more damage. So we make sure to cleanse the makeup and dirt away and then prepare our skin for rejuvenation. 

Cleanse and exfoliate

Apply Eye Serum

Before moisturizing, we apply eye serum. The eye serum is highly recommended for women that suffer from dark circles and puffiness under the eye. Iluma intense brightening eye cream is our favorite. It helps to reduce dark circles, wrinkles, and puffiness. You can purchase the Illuma intense brightening eye directly from I image skincare website. Some Estheticians use I image skin care products, if you have an Esthetician you should ask if they sell I image skin care products, trust me you will be glowing in no time.

Moisturize moisturize moisturize! All skin types need moisture to keep from getting dry or damage. Of course, we recommend I image skincare again. The Ormedic Balancing Bio- peptide Creme is an organically blended biopeptide creme that offers anti-aging nutrients and vitamins. To see what it looks like view the image above. 


Every night wash your makeup, oils, and dirt off your face. We like to exfoliate every night, but for some people, it’s not necessary. Exfoliating your skin removes makeup and dead skin cells. You want to use a gentle face exfoliator, we recommend using silicone because it is gentle on the skin and it makes cleansing convenient for you. The Luna mini is our favorite face exfoliator. You can purchase a Luna min directly from Foreo website. To see what it looks like view the image below. After, rinse your face with warm water and let your face air dry do not use a washcloth. Washcloths carry too much dirt and bacteria, you don’t want to use a washcloth after you just finish washing your face. Another reason why we recommend air drying is because your skin absorbs products better when it’s damp and if you spend tons of money on skincare you want to make sure your products do their job.

Gel eye mask

Wearing a gel eye mask to bed is not necessary but we just love gel eye masks. Dark circles and puffiness under the eye can be so unattractive and we try to avoid it as much as possible. Gel eye mask will only work if you apply your eye serum on first. 

           Love you the right way and invest in your skin. Do it Pour Toi

Skin & Make-up

The best skincare brands – our winter favorites

Winter is here and it’s not a game. Do you have super-duper dry skin? if so, this is for you. Below are some of our winter favorites. Each product is visible in the beauty industry, it’s not hard to find them.

1. Cocoa butter

The famous Cocoa brand! Palmers. It provides deep hydration all over the body. Palmer’s cocoa butter is good for all skin types, even eczema prone skin.

2. Mario Badescu

This mist spray is perfect, you can literally hydrate your skin on the go. It can fit right into your bag with no problem. Use it during the day when you feel like your skin is losing moisture. Mario Badescu mist spray is also good for setting makeup. No setting spray? that’s fine, get you some Mario Badescu.

3. Carmex

“I want chapped lips,” said no one in their right mind. There’s tons of lip balm out there for you but Carmex is our favorite. It soothes, heals and protects. Carmex will have your lips feeling brand new.

4. Lip Scrub, DIY

Nothing like a homemade lip scrub in the winter. It exfoliates and softens the lips and even the skin around your lips. You can make a lip scrub by yourself in seconds. First, get you some coconut oil, honey, lemon, and brown sugar. Next, grab a glass bowl to mix all the ingredients into it. Once you mixed all the ingredients together, you want to place it all in a clean container with a lid. We recommend keeping your lip scrub in your refrigerator to last long. But it should not be used after 2 weeks because homemade cosmetics lack preservatives and it will mess up after 2 weeks.  

5. Image skincare Iluma intense brightening eye cream

We can’t forget about the eyes! the Illuma intense brightening eye cream, hydrates and brighten under the eyes. It helps to reduce dark circles, wrinkles, and puffiness.

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6. Kiehl’s ultra facial moisturizer sunscreen SPF 30

For face moisturizer, we need something that will hydrate the skin and protect it at the same time. For those of you that don’t know, you should protect your skin from sun damage in the summer and winter. This is because the earth is closest to the sun in the middle of the winter, causing you to be exposed to the sun at some point. That’s why we like Kiehl’s ultra facial moisturizer sunscreen. It protects your skin from UV and UVB rays and absorbs easily, leaving your skin soft and healthy looking. 

Have you used any of the products we listed? If not, comment below and let us know some of your favorite winter favorites.