I haven’t always trusted myself, not competely anyway. I can recall times where I made decisions based on how it would affect everyone else but me. I have put more faith into others than myself at times and ended up being the only one who paid for it. In learning to trust myself I have had to sacrifice comfortability for growth in learning and practicing both patience and grace daily. So how do you learn to trust yourself? It honestly is a growing experience that takes a lot of work and accountability but the rewards are endless. Here are five tips to learn to trust yourself.
1.Go with your gut
Have you ever had a gut instinct to do something and instead of acting on it you chose another route that ended up going horribly wrong when your gut instinct or first thought would have given you much better results? Why do we do this to ourselves so often? We end up over-thinking a simple solution and go against our own better judgement. Stop doubting yourself, your first “mind” is usualy the right one. Try going with your gut instinct more often and watch amazing results unfold.
2. Listen to yourself first
Your opinion should trump than anyone else’s. Mostly, the decisions made in your life typically tend to affect yourself the most, so why are you trusting your life in someone else’s hands more than your own? Perhaps it’s easier to blame someone other than yourself if things don’t go as planned. Maybe you are so untrusting of yourself that someone, anyone else’s idea are more appealing than your own. Ultimately you have to live with your decisions, no one else, as great as someone else’s opinions or ideas about your life may be, ultimately you have to trust yourself first and rely on yourself to make the best decisions for you.
3. Stop making excuses
Maybe in the past you made a huge mistake and are still punishing yourself for it. Perhaps you have never been good at making the right decision and always seem to be making another mistake. You can stop that cycle. Life is all about learning and growing. The truth is, you are never going to make the right decision if you don’t start trusting yourself to do so. You are going to make mistakes, it’s inevitable, but you are also going to grow and learn and perhaps make a few more mistakes along the way, but that is life. You will fall, but you will also fly.
Learning to trust yourself after years of not doing it can be extremely difficult. However, start leaning towards what feels right. Learn to tune out all of the other noise and simply practice trusting yourself . It’s not going to be easy at first but I promise it will be worth it.
Love & light